Have you ever wished you could go back and give your past self bits of sage advice? What would you tell yourself? 1. Someone else’s feelings don’t dictate your reality. Feelings aren’t facts. Abusive people, who have the need to …
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A reader inquires as to how one goes about choosing the “right track” for therapy. How do you know which therapeutic methodology is right for you? Additionally: Is it important to confront traumatic memories in order to heal? Dear Amma-Lee, …
Read more →Upon viewing 12 Years a Slave I am reminded of my years of concerted avoidance and disassociation. I have been afraid to look truth in the eyes. I’ve been choosing side-glances of reality. I’ve needed a break; a privilege afforded …
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Amanda Lee asks us to ponder this question. She asks us to answer it by breaking the question down into a few smaller questions: 1. Who has (or had) power over you in your life? 2. How do (or did) …
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We deny ourselves the right to exist based on what has happened in our past, what other people have told us about ourselves, and the mistakes we feel we have made. I have found to truly make the stride from …
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Amma Lee shares tools related to focusing on nurturing yourself in the present. By making choices and changes now, you can prevent overwhelm and feelings of powerlessness often experienced when making grand resolutions. What did you choose to do to change …
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Seeking to reclaim herself after a tumultuous relationship, fraught with infidelity and heartache a reader, Jaki S., asked me: “How do I get my power back, when it feels like it has gone and it is not going to return …
Read more →Alexander Pope wrote “to err is human; to forgive, divine.” But is it necessary? A perpetrator’s sense of entitlement to forgiveness and the filthy torment left in the wake of abuse often strangles a survivors capacity to truly untangle the …
Read more →I know, I know…that song immediately comes to mind…its screeching drone echoing bleats of horrific codependent tendencies. Pleading caterwauls of desperation. But seriously now, the questions deserve to be answered. As I find myself transitioning post second divorce, expatriating once again, …
Read more →Early February 2008, I was in the back of a white MSF land cruiser, sitting on one of the fold down bench seats, facing the Deputy Director of MSF-Holland. We had all managed to clad ourselves in our most respectably …
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