There is a relief that comes from no longer holding onto the tension and the weight of past hurts. You’ve heard me say it before: Get the old broccoli out of your internal refrigerator. You are NO ONE’S garbage can! This means that your inner basket needs to be emptied. The question is how do you empty it and to whom is it safe to share the contents?
The 5th Step: Admitted to God, to Ourselves and to Another Human Being the Exact Nature of Our Experiences.
Am I Safe With Me? Am I Safe With You?
These are important questions I invite you to ask yourself when you are considering taking this essential step in your healing process. I would like you to take a moment to ground yourself, by using this simple meditation.
Afterwards, review how it feels for you to be more mindfully present with yourself. What can you do to create an environment within yourself and outside of yourself to feel safe? Write this down and explore what you can realistically do to nurture yourself in order to give yourself this wonderful gift of being known.
Mpho Tutu, the daughter of Rev. Desmond Tutu, expounds upon the importance of a safe environment and choosing a safe person with whom to share:
Rev. Desmond Tutu during his Global Forgiveness Challenge gave this wonderful 5 Step Process for anyone to follow who is going to listen to you share your story. This is a great guideline to use in determining if a person is safe for you to share your story with:
What Happens Next?
After you have emptied your inner basket and shared your experiences with another person it’s a perfect time for some self-care! You have made a huge stride in your healing process, this accomplishment deserves to be acknowledged. You deserve to recognize yourself and the bravery it took to open yourself up to another person. You deserve to luxuriate in the lightness of being free from carrying the burden of painful secrets.
What will you do now to celebrate? How will you honor yourself? Feel free to share how the experience was for you in the comments section below.
This can inspire others to take this step as well. You are a trailblazer! Thank you for walking this journey. I am so proud of you!
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