Have you struggled to find the “right way,” or the strength, to say, “No?” Trying to regulate the reactions and emotions of others is a common trait for those who have survived trauma and abuse. We were taught that we …
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Unfulfilled expectations, loneliness, and insecurity can lead to resentments and isolation. Self-pity is an all too familiar feeling for survivors. Maya Angelou wrote, “Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does …
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Facing the winter holidays can be daunting to anyone, especially if you’re exhausted and nearing burn-out. The looming specter of faking holiday cheer is cringeworthy at best, particularly whilst trying to keep the peace if the voices inside your head …
Read more →Is the term: “I’m Sorry” sufficient when making amends? How does it feel when someone continues to repeat the same behavior they’ve said they’re sorry for? When approaching the prospect of making amends one of the most important things to …
Read more →A reader writes in asking for guidance in how to raise children in a situation where one of the parents is in active addiction. Amanda Lee introduces the reader to the concept that alcoholism does not only affect the alcoholic, but …
Read more →Dear Amma-Lee, I was raised in part by my grandparents in a violent, alcoholic, abusive home. When my grandfather died (sexual and physical abuser) 4 years ago, I felt relief and thought I moved on with my life. I don’t remember …
Read more →If there were only a workbook to help you figure out how to deal with the unmanageability in your life, then everything would be ok, right? This miraculous guide could give you ways to get your life back in order. …
Read more →Questions and emotions can inundate the mind when preparing to walk out of the door and brave what can feel like exposure and judgment. The energy drain of facing a new day starts before we even leave the house. It …
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An introduction video to my backstory and why I decided to start Terminally Forgetful.com Thank you for walking alongside me on this journey! © Amanda Lee
Read more →As I introduced in last week’s article, I am continuing with the series on “How Do I…Without You,” a look at codependent tendencies in relationships. This week I would like to share the ways in which I have unsuccessfully sought to …
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